5 years ago I was listening to the God Centered Mom podcast (Now called the Don't Mom Alone podcast) on my way home from work. I didn't remember who the guest was (I went back and found it and I'll put the link to the podcast at the bottom of this post) but I did remember one part of the interview. The guest talked about how her and her husband spend 1 hour each night, after the kids go to bed, together with no phones, TV or other distractions. At the time I listened to this I only had 2 kids and this seemed like one of those "great in theory but yeah right I ain't doin' that" kind of things. I'm sure I have an hour but that seems like a lot of time to give up when I've had an exhausting day. And that was that. I dismissed the idea and forgot about it...
...until a little over a month ago. My husband and I talk to each other a lot but we were having many evenings where it was midnight and I felt like I hadn't connected with him at all that day. Randomly one night this podcast came back to my mind and I proposed the idea to Andre and immediately he was interested (what took me five years to consider took him 5 seconds). We started that very night. We talked about our day, plans we had for the next day, plans we had for the next year, even what we ate for lunch. For part of the hour we even sat and didn't say a word. The hour went faster than I expected and it was so fulfilling. So much so that we haven't missed a day in the 5 weeks we've been doing it.
Not only have we found it great for catching up on each other's days and random thoughts, but it also makes finding time to be intimate a lot easier. It is so easy to get caught up in how much laundry needs to be done or the kitchen that needs cleaning or the kid that has a spelling test the next day and has yet to practice the words. This certainly doesn't take those things away, but when you have committed to NOT doing those things within your hour together, it helps you focus on more important things.
So, the biggest thing I've learned over the last 5 weeks is that I am fully capable of giving my husband 1 hour (or really any amount of time - you choose the right amount for your schedule!) of my undivided attention per day. The benefits should show very quickly after trying this out :)
Here is the link to the full episode but the talk of what she and her husband call "Date night every night" starts at 36:14 :)
Hi, I'm Rebecca
I’m a wife, mom to 5 kids, former choir teacher, Christian and advice giver? I can honestly say I never expected to be the one giving advice when I so frequently ask for it, but the advice I’ve received is so valuable and must be shared! Here are some of the things I’ve learned so far!