It’s everywhere. Facebook, Instagram, within 5 seconds of checking Pinterest for birthday party ideas. And what’s worse is we KNOW what we are seeing on these social media platforms are people’s highlight reels and it still feels like we aren’t doing enough. Even the old school ways to document your child’s life, printed photos and scrapbooks, are things we feel we should want to do so our kids have a chance to walk down memory lane with handwritten messages and photo corner stickers.
The thing I’ve learned: I don’t like scrapbooking and that doesn’t mean I’m a terrible mom. Sure I can do a page or two but with four (almost five) kids, I just know I am not going to enjoy doing hundreds of pages taking me hundreds of hours so my kids can maybe look at them every few years. What if when they are older they ask me to make their own kids’ scrapbooks?! That sounds to me like way too much pressure ESPECIALLY when I don’t like doing it!
So here’s what I do. I stole this first idea from a friend’s mom who kept a wall calendar up in her kitchen and wrote something down for each day. It doesn’t have to be these huge, legendary moments each day, just something that stood out. We’ve written down things the kids say, how they did during an athletic practice, what we ate for dinner that night as well as the traditional first word, first crawl, third tooth came in, etc. We are on our 5th year of this and still going strong!
The other is secret Instagram accounts for each kid. I certainly share photos of my kids on my own social media but I try to limit it to holiday pictures and proud mama moments. On their Instagram accounts I put random Tuesday pictures, messy faces and pictures of the kids’ artwork and I always include a date in the caption. When I get my act together, I will make a Chatbook that has the caption along with the picture to organize all of those moments while I sit at my computer and click order.
These aren’t the only ways to keep memories but it works for us and helps me not feel like the worst mom ever because I didn’t keep every single piece of scrap paper they breathed on.
Hi, I'm Rebecca
I’m a wife, mom to 5 kids, former choir teacher, Christian and advice giver? I can honestly say I never expected to be the one giving advice when I so frequently ask for it, but the advice I’ve received is so valuable and must be shared! Here are some of the things I’ve learned so far!